Attraction-killers and 3 ways to be irresistible to a man

*When you are talking to him for the first time:
DON’T ASK HIM WHAT HE DOES…:’” SO, WHAT DO YOU DO.?”….DON’T SAY IT!!! You will be as predictable as any other girl he has ever met.

*Never say this to the guy you are attracted to:
“Im bored”
It only shows that you are a boring person, and he will think that the only reason you are talking to him is because you have nothing better to do.

* Don't talk too much. That can be a huge attraction killer.

Written by the super-awesome dating guru Christian Carter:

3 ways to be irresistible to a man

Tip #1: Show Him You're The Opposite Of Needy

In case you didn't know, it's important to
understand why a man can see you as needy,
even when you're not.

Did you know that a woman doesn't actually have
to actually BE needy for a man to get that icky
feeling inside that tells him "RUN!" when he's
around her?

The ways you share your feelings and lend
emotional support to your girlfriends can bond
your friendship, but that kind of "talking" and
intimacy can actually make a man feel ANXIOUS AND
SMOTHERED by you.

Some examples of this are asking a man such
things as, "why didn't you call yesterday?" or
"aren't we going to see each other this weekend?"

Don't go there if you want to keep the
attraction going.

A man will want more with you if he can sense
that you're focused on enjoying and celebrating
the time you ARE spending together.

Rather than you feeling and accidentally
communicating to him that you're scared or
uncertain about the time you're NOT SPENDING
together - which is guaranteed to make a strong,
independent man pull back.

A way to make this simple is this...

Focus your attention not on when or how much
TIME you're spending together.

Men don't care or value things about a woman
based on TIME (the way lots of women do).

Instead, focus on creating the situations, the
moments, and the experiences that are sure to have
him WANTING more from you.

When you do this, you won't have to worry
or ask for more... because he'll constantly be
coming towards you and looking for more.


Tip #2: Be Different Than Other Women

A man loves being around a woman who has more
to talk about than the boring everyday stuff.

Talking to him about things like problems at
work, errands you have to do this weekend, how
tired you feel, what you had for lunch, etc. all
lead to the same uninspired feeling -

Plain old BOREDOM.

When you meet a man, asking him what he does
for a living or talking about your job is also
boring.

It's what every OTHER woman does.

If you call a man you've been out with, and you
start telling him all about some problem or tough
situation you're having in your life before he
knows you very well, it's not only boring to him -
it's also a little much for the first few go-
rounds.

It's what all the other women did who were
the WRONG WOMAN for him.

If you want to meet and attract a very
"together" guy who has a lot going for him,
including looks and brains, then you have to
STAND OUT from the crowd.

You cannot be BORING and PREDICTABLE.

Men who are attractive enough to be sought
after have seen and heard it all from women. And
they'll VERY QUICKLY lose interest if you talk
the same way as 98% of the other women they've
met.

But...

A man will LOVE being around you if you
communicate a love for and enjoyment of life, and
bring a unique and UPBEAT ENERGY that shows
you have fun and interesting things OF YOUR OWN
going on.

This will set you APART from every other woman
a man knows.

And it will make him want to spend more and
more time with you.

The women a man is looking to AVOID are the
women looking for a man to fill their life and
make it more interesting and fun.

The woman a man can't help but FALL FOR is the
woman who is already doing great things in her
own life which naturally attract him into
wanting to be more a part of it.

The question is...

What are you doing in YOUR OWN LIFE that a man
would want to be a part of?

Or are you looking for a life with a man?


Tip #3: Don't Be Predictable

If a man has no idea what you'll do or say
next, he's MUCH more likely to constantly think
and wonder about you.

What does this mean? This means that if you
know to create a level of unpredictability so that
he is constantly pleasantly surprised by you, it
will work like magic to trigger his attraction.

For example, instead of thinking or feeling so
seriously all the time with men when you have
something you want to say... use humor and
teasing when possible.

These 2 things are like MAGIC GLUE with a man
that will make him want to stick with you.

One fun and simple thing you can do is this-

Tell a man the exact OPPOSITE of what you're
really thinking, but smile when you say it.

"I can't stand you." (wink)

"You look awful in that shirt." (smirk)

"Too bad you're no fun." (grin)

Men love this kind of playful flirting.

Why?

Because rather than just complimenting a man
or gushing about your feelings, you're creating
some playful TENSION.

And tension creates a great energy that a man
will want more of.
It's predictable that if you like a man, and
you're looking for a relationship for you to say,

"I think you're a great guy, and I'm looking
for a serious relationship and life partnership."

Not so exciting in the grand scheme of things-
although it's heartfelt.

It's fun and UNPREDICTABLE to instead say,

"You know, I'm not so sure about you. (wink)
I'll guess I'll have to wait and see if you're
worthy of what I can share. (smile)"

This kind of thing drives a man wild on several
levels beyond just his Physical Attraction.

One a basic level, men love to be teased by
women they want.

Teasing works so well for women who use it
as an alternative to being so serious because
it is one of the primary male languages for
BONDING AND CONNECTION.

You have probably seen this yourself.

Think about all the weird nicknames your guy
has for his friends, and how they like to crack
jokes and make (good-hearted) fun of each other.

Guys love it when you don't take yourself too
seriously.

On the other hand, men usually lose interest
in a relationship when things get TOO PREDICTIBLE,
TOO SERIOUS, or just TOO BORING and the woman is
no longer the radiant, upbeat, fun-loving,
energetic woman who he was attracted to in the
first place.

Bottom line: Men will become restless and
uncertain when they stop feeling that gut-level
attraction for you physically and emotionally.

It's a huge part of what bonds a man to you.

That's why it's important to know what to do
to trigger those feelings to keep the spark alive
and healthy in your relationship.